No City for Families

Boston, like many cities, does not do growth planning for families larger than 3. My wife and I have been back and forth about where to live forever it seems. We don't want to move to the suburbs, we want cool places to eat, the ability to walk to a coffee shop, convenience store (they should call them inconvenience stores in the suburbs), movie theatre, libraby, school. These are important to us. Affordable cities in the midwest and southwest are just really big suburbs it seems. Despite being cold, expensive, and unfriendly, Boston is the place we fit. But if you have more than a six month old baby there are really few options. Google search "urban planning for families" and all you get is low income housing results. Tell me where to live!!!